Gaydar

Gaydar has become virtually obsolete in the city of Vancouver. The only way these days that you can know for sure if a guy is gay is if you see him with his tongue down the throat of another guy on the street. I sit in my lecture hall just observing and notice that no one is for sure. It's no longer just is he gay or european (a common North American phrase due the lack of style the straight male portion of this continent has been afflicted with for decades). These days it's is he gay or hipster? Is he gay or Asian? Is he gay or metrosexual? Is he gay or has his girlfriend just gone shopping for him? Is he gay or has his best gay friend gone shopping for him? The possibilities are just endless these days. I remember when I went back home to Australia for a holiday for the first time in 4 years and I noticed that the men seem to have a thing for tight short shorts that reach their mid thigh. Having spent 4 years with limited exposure to fashion I remarked to my friend: "Is everybody gay?" (note the hopeful tones). Her response was "Nah it's just how guys here dress". After a few more questions I gave up even attempting to guess if they were when it was revealed the man in the lace backed shirt was straight.....yeah I know right. Now I understand this post may seem particularly shallow, stereotypical and judgmental but in the defense of my position. Fashion has been a key part of gay culture. When homosexuality was still illegal in the west gay men developed a style and a subculture that had a particular style which allowed them to identify similar members of their group. Yeah, that fabulous sense of style was not bred into us. This sense of fashion that straight men are embracing is great as it expands the horizons of men's fashion and brings in new varieties of clothing but for a simple gay man trying to to figure out if the guy he is interested in is ok to hit on it can be confusing as fuck.

How short is too short?

When people get out a relationship that they had a lot of motions invested in and where they felt hurt as a result of it ending, how long until it is acceptable for them to begin dating again? And by dating I don't mean going on dates I mean moving into another emotionally committed relationship. This seems like a very Carrie-esque question but I feel the need to ask it. My last boyfriend broke up with me a month ago and I keep having guys that want to have relationships with me.....first world problems right? But seriously in the so called 'gay world' dating different people in a fairly quick succession can lead to a hell of a lot of judgement. That judgement can put a lot of unnecessary pressure on someone who may or may not be somewhat emotionally fragile. This relationship may be a way of not only building a strong connection with someone else but also as a way of healing themselves and even in some cases the other person. To all those that say dating when not long out of a relationship is a bad thing, I say who made it your business? Are you the one with the broken heart? No. Maybe you like to be alone when you have just been dumped but not everyone does. The miserable bitch syndrome is not for everyone, even if it is for you. I am now going to drown my sorrows in a tub of ice cream....my lactose intolerant stomach is going to be pissed. Night!

I wish I had the same problems as the girls in Sex and the City

My husband left me.......now I only have enough money to get FOUR Louis Vuitton bags a day as opposed to EIGHT. O woe is me boo hoo and all that shit. Honestly, I love these movies and the TV show that spawned them because trashy comedy is god's gift to the world; but seriously, I wish after my last boyfriend dumped me I could of gone to Mexico to get over it and then come back and redecorate my house with $300 pillows. Yeah this is a bitching blog. It's times like this that make me realise why I love Confessions of a Shopaholic so much. The bitch gets in debt! And not only that but we watch her claw her way out after being publicly humiliated. It is a far more empowering story than these damn movies. Especially for these economic times where (from what I've heard) 25% of college students have had to turn to some kind of sex work in order to pay for college tuition. Yeah this is the generation of the prostitute. Viva la red light district. Hoes fo life! Yeah I think I may be too tired due to the fact I just started using ebonics to communicate a point. Night all!